Getting Past The Hurt
Anyone trolling an online dating website, reading a profile of someone they find attractive does not want to read about that person’s past all that much. Beyond maybe the most cursory of details, it’s as bad form during a date to talk about one’s ex as much as it is in chat or leaving clues in a profile to how hurt one might be because of an ex.
Best leave the past in the past whether one is on-line or in person. Like a shark one needs to keep swimming ever forward in something that moves with the speed of the net and when one meets as many people as one can across a social networking hub.
The problem with an on-line profile is that, for the most part, it is a static entry. Sure we can go in and change details, update our file as long as we are members of the site;and most likely any person joining a single’s site will stay a member for a bi, or until they find a match they are happy with. But for the most part updating one’s profile could either be wildly time consuming or might alert others that one’s not so sure of themselves. So given that the profile is more or less set in stone, or should be, whatever we post we must be careful of. Snarky sarcastic comments never come off as intended in print and bitching about how an ex done us wrong in the past won’t make anyone want to imagine a future with you.
For any long term relationship to even have a chance of working one must work through hurt and start fresh. Until one is prepared to do this, it’s best to woodshed our hearts as best we can, regroup, hit the refresh browser on our emotions and minds, surround oneself with supportive friends or ice cream-or both-and contemplate one’s next move in the romantic arena. Sure one can blog about their past hurts, leave missives and pictures on one’s Facebook page, tweet and twitter until one’s heart is content but the minute one puts oneself out there to date again and does so in the digital dating realm one need be ever positive, forward thinking and leave the past off the profile.
