Reasons Why Break Ups Are Good For The Mind
We all do it. Go through a tough break up, break out the tissues, Ben & Jerry’s, worn out copy of The Notebook, and cry for a week solid without seeing the silver lining of the situation. When we go through break ups, we concentrate so much on what we lose that we don’t clearly see all the positive things that comes along with a newly single life.
Why sit and wallow in the fact you’ve lost love? Instead of leaning on the depression as a clutch, ditch it all together and think about what’s ahead!
The best thing about re-entering the single world is connecting with old friends. Let’s face it, it’s hard to be a good friend when you’re in a relationship. Those weekly trips to the movies and hours-long phone conversations are harder to fit into your schedule, and when you do have spare time, you want to spend it with your spouse, not with your friends. Regardless of how long it’s been since you’ve left them for the dating world, your friends are always going to be there when you come out the breakup end. You get to take the time you used to spend stuck in a routine with your boyfriend or girlfriend, and put it towards having a good time with your friends just like before. Having them around won’t just give you a distraction, but it will put you back on the right path to a proper social life.
You no longer have to think about ‘we’. When you want to go on vacation, or to dinner, or even on a walk to the store, you have to consider the time you both have to do it, not just one of you. When you’re in a relationship, you’re always thinking of ‘we’ first and ‘me’ second. When you’re out of the relationship, you get to think about ‘me’ all you can! What you want to do, where you want to do it, and when you want to get it done. It’s a great feeling.
And you know all that boring, missionary sex you’ve had to put up with for the past few years? That’s all done! You can go to your local bar and meet local women or men to have a wild, passionate night with. Now that you’re not with someone you’re used to, you get to explore someone else’s body the way you’ve been craving.
Being single can do wonders for your psyche! Stay positive about the situation. Since you’re already broken up, the past is in the past. You might as well get over the sadness hump and move onto the recovery stage. Embrace your new single life and enjoy the freedom!