Friends With Benefits Will Never End Well
Friends with benefits. It’s a great concept. Two friend who don’t have sexual feelings for each other getting it on because they have no one else to have sex with at the time. What could go wrong?
A lot, actually. A lot could go wrong.
Not once in my life have I heard of an instance where friend with benefits has ended well. Most of the time it ends the friendship completely, which is the biggest way to prove that the plan backfires harshly.
How can an idea that sounds so great, go so poorly? Let me count the ways…
- That casual sex you’re having? That’s not casual, my friend.
The point of casual sex is to get laid by someone you have no connection with. No past, no future, no friendship, no nothing. Having sex with a friend isn’t casual, it’s having sex with a friend! There are already feelings invested in that relationship, and when you cross the line into sexual territory, you defeat the purpose of ‘casual.’
- Things get complicated when someone else is added into the equation.
If you decide to walk down the FWB path because you’re not getting any action anywhere else, then chances are you were in a pretty bad dry spell. But if either of you find someone else you want to start seeing, it will leave one of you feeling hurt and replaced when you pull the No Strings Attached card off the table.
- Jealousy is a cold bitch.
Let’s say you do start liking this person (which is more than very likely), and they don’t feel the same because they really did just want to be friends with benefits, nothing more. Feelings like that are almost impossible to ignore, so if you do maintain these feelings, you’ll have a hard time ignoring that jealous chip on your shoulder.
Friends with benefits never works out. If it does, chances are you weren’t that good of friends to begin with! If you need a quick lay, stick to finding free sex online instead of in your friend roster.