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  • Peters 5:34 pm on August 31, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    You Really Need To Lower Your Deal Breaker Standards 

    Last night I was out with my buddy Ron and we started to talk about the girl he’s been seeing. She’s a cute little blonde, really pretty in the face and body, as a wicked personality, and works as a nurse. If he hadn’t already tapped it, I would have tried for her myself. But while we were talking about how it was going between the two of them, he said it was over. The next bit of our conversation went like this:

    “What do you mean it’s over?”
    “It’s just over. I ended it.”
    “Why?”
    “She listened to Adele. Like all the time. I couldn’t stand it anymore. Does she not have any other CDs?”

    This asshole was being serious!  He was willing to give up sex with one of the most near-perfect women I’ve ever met because she listens to a music artist too much? What kind of lame excuse is that?

    If you’re one of these people that are willing to break up with someone on a dime because of something as petty as their choice in music, then you need to smarten up. When you ween potential dates out of your life because of small details, you’re going to wind up with someone who is free of the small annoyances, but is filled with real problems.

    Let’s take a look at what is and isn’t acceptable, shall we?

    Acceptable:

    • Their work schedules are the exact opposite of yours, making it impossible to ever see them
    • They’re emotionally damaging to you
    • They’ve just killed someone

    Totally not acceptable:

    • You don’t like that they wear Ed Hardy (Alright, this one is debatable.)
    • You’re offended they haven’t read Twilight
    • They smoke. That is what quitting is for!

    Cutting people off for reasons that really don’t matter will leave you lonely and and attempting to meet local women for the rest of your life.

     
  • Peters 7:11 pm on August 30, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Gunmetal Will Get You Laid 

    If you missed the VMAs on Sunday, you missed Bruno Mars doing a wicked cover of an Amy Winehouse song, Lady Gaga acting bizarre (par usual), Beyonce announcing her pregnancy, and the fashion trend that you’re going to want to try this weekend.

    It seemed that every female at the awards that didn’t look like they were dressing for Halloween was dressed in the same thing: Gunmetal. And what did the critics have to say about all the girls dressing similar? Nothing! They loved it! Gunmetal is the color to wear for fall, and lucky for you, it’s not just because of the fashion: Gun metal is going to get you laid.

    Gunmetal, which if you’re not a fan of fashion.. Or the color wheel… is a dark grey with a shine to it. Just like the color of metal that guns are made of (see where the name comes from?). It’s an extremely slimming color, and believe it or not, it beats out black for the what-makes-you-look-your-lightest color. She shine helps turn your chunk into sexy curves, which when you see how good you look in it will make it all the easier for you to be confident when you meet singles.

    Not only will it make you look your best, but when men see the color, they associate it with danger, which will make you all the sexier in their eyes. Girls attention gets triggered by guys who look like they would be sweet and sensitive lovers, but guys want to have sex with someone who they think would tear apart the room in the process. The color alone is enough to get them excited, but having it draped on your body will drive them wild.

    If you want to spice up your fall wardrobe and get lucky while you’re at it, go for the gun!

     
  • Peters 6:25 pm on August 29, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Going On Vacation With Someone You Met Online 

    It’s a common thing for couples to do: They want a break from life and an escape from the ordinary dates they’re used to going on, so they hop on a plane for an enjoyable week at a tropical resort. It’s always a good idea to put the spark back into your relationship– but what if that spark is still new, should you go on vacation with someone who you’re in a fresh online relationship with?

    I often express the importance of protecting your safety when you meet singles online. Regardless of how close the two of you get online, it’s nearly impossible to tell if the person is being honest about who they are if you haven’t spent extensive time with them offline. Unless you’ve already explored this online relationship offline, you should give them a big ‘N-O’ if they ask you to go away with them.

    If you have gotten to know them offline and you’re considering going, be prepared for the relationship to change quickly! There’s a lot of pressure that comes with vacationing. Most people see it as a time to unwind, but planning flights, booking resorts, and taking the time to travel there can out a big strain on a person. You have to both ensure that you’re prepared to travel with each other on an emotional level, not just a pleasure level. If one of you is a bad flyer, for example, then the other has to be ready to help you through it. If you’ve only ever talked to online, you’ve probably never had to do that before, which can be stressful.

    Being in closed quarters with someone on vacation can quickly go from fun to frustration. The pressure to make things go well (along with the pressure of sex) is enough to ruin the vacation alone. If you are thinking of vacationing with your online dating partner, be prepared for those beautiful tropic waters to be a little rocky!

     
  • Peters 5:56 pm on August 25, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Is There A War Being Fought Between Married Couples And Singles? 

    “Next Tuesday? Sorry I can’t, I’m going out to dinner with Donna and Chris.”

    It seems like as soon as any of your friends are in a new relationship, all their time is spent with other people who are in new relationships. Couples gravitate towards other couples in the same stages because they can relate to what each other is going through. It’s the same reasoning behind why you want to call your single friends after a break up, they’ll be interested in the same things you are. Going out, having a good time, not calling their boyfriends to check up on them, and hitting on every good looking man in sight. When you enter the singles dating world, you want to do it with other singles!

    So when your friends in new couples hang out with other new couples, it’s understandable. And when they get engaged and want to hang out with other engaged couples, you get it. And when they get married and want to hang out with other married couples, it crosses a line.

    Seeing married couples flock towards other married couples makes it feel like grade school again, and you’re the one that wasn’t picked for the team. They’re the same people, you’re the same person, but for some reason, you don’t quite make the cut anymore.

    I don’t know if it’s because they’re jealous that you can still go out and have sex, or if you’re jealous they have someone to watch movies with on a Saturday night, but somewhere between their wedding day and their third married-couples-only-charade-party this week that you weren’t invited to, a silent war starts to build. Eventually do you not only not care that you weren’t invited, but you’re glad you weren’t.

    If you’re stuck in the middle of the war yourself, be the first person to raise the white flag! There’s no need to fight a war with people who should be friends. In the war between marrieds and singles, ending the battle is up to you.

     
  • Peters 8:16 pm on August 24, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Baseball Break-Ups 

    When a new relationship starts, you always get asked the baseball question by your friends. “Have you guys gone to first base yet?”, “When do you think you’ll get a home run?”, “How big is his bat?” The older you get the more you expect the questions like that to fade away, but they keep coming.

    It’s easy to describe what’s happening in the early stages of your relationship, because all you have to do is name a base and people understand. But when we’re in the middle of a break up, we have to give the nitty gritty details because there’s no baseball analogy to compare it to.

    Well my friends, I’m here to save you some trouble and set up the ground rules for break up baseball. Here we go…

    First Base: The Talk

    Every breakup starts with ‘the talk.’ That awkward conversation where you try to gently let them know that you simply don’t want to be with them anymore. Whether it’s through subtle hints or blunt explanations, the talk is never an easy thing to have, but it’s a necessary step to start the break up. You have to get there before you can go anywhere else with the breakup so, naturally, this is first base.

    Second Base: Second Guessing

    No one likes getting to second base, but it’s a natural part of the break up. If you’ve ever watched How I Met Your Mother, you may be familiar with Graduation Goggles. It’s what happens to someone when they go through four years of hating high school, but suddenly wish it wasn’t over when graduation time comes. Even if they didn’t like high school, they start to, for whatever reason, remember it only for the good times when it comes to a close. This happens in all relationships. No matter how bad they were, you start to remember all the good times you had together and begin second guessing the relationship. If your friends are asking how you’re doing in the break up and you let them know you’re sitting at second base, that’s their cue to remind you of all the reasons you’re breaking up with that asshole in the first place.

    Third Base: Cutting The Ties

    Third base is hardest to get to, because most people don’t realize how necessary it is. If you want the break up to stick, cutting ties is a necessary step. Some people have a fairy tale notion that they can stay friends after they break up, but that’s a pipe dream. In order to get over the relationship, you need your distance. Being friends in the future may be a possibility, but only after the hatchet has been buried, and that takes time. Going from second guessing to cutting the ties is the hardest part about breakup baseball, but you’ll never be able to start your new singles sex search if you don’t.

    The Home Run: Dating Someone Else

    The home run is what every breakup-ee craves while playing the game. They dread running the bases, but having that beautiful, shining home plate is what makes it all worth it. Having sex with someone else for the first time is biggest signal that you’re finally finished with the breakup game. Wash off that break up smell because when you get the home run in breakup baseball, you get to start playing relationship baseball again!

     
  • Peters 7:28 pm on August 22, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    When To Get Phone-y 

    It used to be when you meet singles, you’d set a time and date to meet if you wanted to get to know them better. Then it changed to getting their phone numbers. Then to their cell, so you could text them. Now we simply exchange bar codes and BBM each other while on break at work. It’s about as romantic as it sounds, and extremely unimpressive.

    With so many people skeptical of dating people they don’t know, going up to someone and making a date may not be the best thing you can do today, but asking for their number and actually calling them is.

    Texting someone is about as romantic as playing broken telephone. There’s nothing personal about it. You don’t get to hear how a person intends for a message to come across, you never know if they’re being sarcastic or not, and you never get their genuine answer to questions, because they have time to think about and construct an answer, so it’s never organic.

    When you pick up the phone and call them, you get immediate responses and get to hear how they’re genuinely reacting to what you say. Even if they say ‘lol,’ it doesn’t mean they’re laughing. Wouldn’t you like it better if you had an idea if they were really laughing at the jokes you made? Talking on the phone is a much better way to get to know someone.

    Next time you have someone you want to have sex with, don’t try to do it through BBM! Attempt to get to know them through phone conversations and dates. If they’re not into dating the real way, then they’re not going to be into having sex that way, either! You’re going to be in for a relationship of sexting and texting; neither of which are better than the real deal.

     
  • Peters 3:35 pm on August 19, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Dating A Celebrity Isn’t As Appealing As It Sounds 

    Matt Damon and his wife Lucy, who he met while she waited his table at a restaurant she worked at.

    When singles dating are looking for someone to get into a relationship with, the dream scenario for most people would be to snag a celebrity. With the riches, the glam and the glory, why wouldn’t people want to involved in that lifestyle? Not to mention we see these people on a constant basis in full hair and make-up, reciting lines that sound so perfect they could be Hallmark cards, so that might add just a little to the attraction we have to them. But when they come home at the end of the day, you’re more likely to have more relationship problems with a celeb than you would your average Joe.

    They work long hours
    If they’re famous, they’re going to be away a lot. Between movie shoots, recording studios, concert tours, promotional tours, interviews, mandatory appearances, award shows, and everything else celebrities are obligated to do,  you don’t get a lot of face time with them. The two things couples fight about most  are money and careers, so even though you won’t have to worry about monetary issues, you’ll have a big stress in the relationship because of their career. Between the long hours and knowing that their career always comes first, it’s a hard pill to swallow.

    There’s a higher chance of infidelity
    Almost 80% of guys that cheat on their partners claim the reason they did it was because they had the opportunity. Unfortunately we live in a time when a lot of people are looking to sleep with celebrities simply because they have fame. If they have people constantly offering themselves on a silver platter, chances are at some point, they’re going to slip up. When sex comes easily to someone, they tend to look at it with less significance than it carries, which will make it more likely that they’ll slip up and sleep with someone else.

    Even if they’re not being unfaithful, people will always be telling you they are
    It’s been six years since Jennifer Anniston and Brad Pitt broke up. Since then, he’s found a life partner in Angelina Jolie and they’ve had a hundred kids together. She hasn’t done so bad herself, having long-term relationships with other stars like John Mayer and Vince Vaughn. But does this stop magazines from publishing weekly covers about how Brad and Jen have been seen together, are sleeping together, are getting back together, are leaving their spouses for each other, blah blah blah. If you were Angelina, no matter how self confident you are, it’s going to take it’s tole on you always having to hear that your boyfriend is cheating on you.

    There’s much more than usual to be jealous about
    Celebrities are always expected to be ‘on’. Even when they’re not on set, people still want to see them act like gods and goddesses among others, so they have to keep the smile on their face at all times. You’ll have to deal with your boyfriend flashing his smile at every girl that walks past, stop your conversation to take pictures with anybody that asks, and see him making out with his gorgeous co-star in their new movie. What girl wouldn’t be jealous of that? Not to mention you’ll have the whole world playing matchmaker with your boyfriend, saying that he would make a great couple with Emma Stone, or that he would make a much cuter couple with Natalie Portman. No matter how secure you usually re in relationships, it’s a different situation with celebrities.

    If you’re day dreaming about hooking up with George Clooney, keep dreaming, because it’s a better option than actually dating him!

     
  • Perish-Peters 5:56 pm on August 18, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Did Carrie And Big Ruin The Fairy Tale Ending? 

    Since the dawning of time, little girls have looked forward to the fairy tale ending. They’ve wanted to meet their prince charming, have the royal wedding, pop out a few kids and live happily ever after. But since HBO brought us the cursed gift in the form of Sex And The City, we’ve been striving for something a little different.

    Carrie Bradshaw, the girls girl who we can all relate to, has changed the story we expect. Instead of finding the prince and having our happily ever after, we expect to find our prince, realize he’s not so charming, fight, break up, cheat, wait for him to marry and divorce someone else, try to get married, get left at the alter, try to get married again, and eventually make it down the isle in a two-person no-guest wedding at a courthouse.

    Okay, so maybe what we expect isn’t exactly like that, but it’s not too far off, either. When we see people like Carrie struggling to get her love and sex lives together, it’s easy to lower the bar on expectations for ourselves. It’s the Mother Smoking syndrome all over again. When you see your mom smoking when you’re little, you imitate her thinking nothing of it. If mom can do it, whey can’t you, right? We look up to Carrie like we did our mothers when we were little, only now instead of pretending to smoke, we’re falling into bad relationships because they just happened to work out with her.

    Next time you want to meet singles, don’t settle for anything less than prince charming! Just because Carrie settled with Big doesn’t mean you have to walk the same path. She may have changed the typical ending we expect, but if you raise your bar, you’ll end up happier than Ms. Bradshaw herself.

     
  • Peters 5:43 pm on August 17, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    A Girls Guide To Going Down 

    No girl sees a dick and naturally thinks ‘I’d really like to put that in my mouth one day!’ They aren’t born with blow job skills, and since they don’t have penises themselves, they can’t really tell if what they’re doing is effective or not. Well ladies, grab a pen and sit down, because blow job class is in session.

    Your hands

    When most girls think oral, they think with just their mouths. The truth is what you do with your hands is just as important as what you do with your mouth. Do as you would if you were giving a hand job, but keep the stroking soft and only to the middle of the shaft, so you don’t interrupt your mouth work.

    His shaft

    It’s not a race! You’re not trying to see how fast you can jerk it around. No matter what you’ve seen in sex videos before, going fast is never going to please him! The slower you work his shaft, the better it’s going to feel for him.

    The balls

    Don’t forget they’re there! Not paying any attention to the balls is an opportunity waisted. Gently roll them in your hand as if they were stress balls and never squeeze your hand! And as always, the more lube, the better.

    Sucking

    Don’t just put it in your mouth and pull it back out, you actually have to put some work into it. As you’re pulling him into your mouth, gently suck as you do it. It’s an easy motion to do, but it will make a world of difference.

    Blowing?

    Yes it’s called a ‘blow’ job, but if you’re new to the game, make sure you know that there’s no actual blowing involved in the act itself. But if you want to give your mouth a quick break, pull him out and gently blow hot breath on the head of his penis. The change in temperature will be a great sensation to him, and since not a lot of girls do it, it will be a new experience.

    Tongue Play

    When you have him in your mouth, don’t only use your mouth, use your tongue! Gently swirling it around this shaft while he’s in your mouth and doing the same to his head when you pull him out will be a very welcomed edition to the act.

    Singles dating can be intimidating, but if you know what you’re doing going down, you’ll be a lot more comfortable taking your oral test.

     
  • Peters 4:51 pm on August 16, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    An Artistic Way To Spice Up Your Sex Life 

    When singles are in young stages of their relationship, their sex lives are at their height. They’re excited that they don’t have to try and meet singles anymore, they are finally getting regular sex, and they’re at the point where they’re most likely to get a little kinky in the bedroom. When couples have been together for a while, they get into routines and patters in the bedroom that get tough to break out of, so fresh couples have the advantage of a great sex life.

    When you get stuck in a sexual rut, you have to think outside the box to get the magic back.

    Cue the art class.

    Couples should always try to do things together, but adding an erotic element is a great way to get you excited for the bedroom. Even if you’re not artistic, this little activity is the perfect way to bring you closer.

    Take a sketching class with a live model. Instead of sketching the models when they de-robe, you and your match have to write all the things you like about their bodies better than the models. So if your girlfriend has better boobs, you write what’s better about them. If your boyfriend has a thicker penis, you write that. Before the class is over, switch sketch pads so you both can read what the other has listed.

    When you get home, instead of going at it, model for each other and this time actually draw them. You’ll get to appreciate the curves and movement of their bodies more than usual, and it will build the anticipation for sex more intensely than just getting right into it.

    Things can get boring when you’ve been sleeping with the same person for too long, and even spicing things up with handcuffs can seem mundane. Think outside the box and get a little kinky in your love life! Making things new is the easiest way to making them interesting.

     
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