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  • Peters 5:04 pm on September 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Class Is In Session 

    Where’s the best place for 20-somethings to meet singles in the real world? The easy answer would be to say through an online dating site, and while that would be true if you were looking at where singles meet digitally, it’s not the same as where they have the best chance of meeting organically.

    Believe it or not, the best chance at finding someone between 18 and 28 is on a university campus!

    With a growing number of people enrolling in universities in 2010 and 2011, it’s no wonder that the highest concentrated number of 20-somethings in one place is at a school. But now that you know where to find them, how can you further that to finding someone to have a relationship with?

    Head over to the campus coffee shop
    When people have a few minutes in between class, chances are they’re not going to stand around and wait for their next class, they’re going to find something to do! Coffee shops are always filled with people who are looking to waste time, and what better way to do that then getting to know someone! Find someone sitting by themselves who has a free seat around them, and ask if you could take a seat. It’s an easy way to break the ice and opens the door to conversation.

    Check out the library
    Everyone needs to study in University, and the library is the place to go. If anyone catches your eye, mention the subject they’re reading up on and offer your expertise. If you don’t know anything about their field, ask them about it! Talking through their subject will help them study, so really by hitting on them, you’ll be doing them a favor!

    Go to the campus store
    Every university has a store that sells essential reading materials for  class, and the lines are often longer than the wait to get into the college pub. If someone is buying a book they need for class, there’s no doubt they’d appreciate a little distraction with conversation as they wait in line.

    Support your team at a sporting event!
    Sporting events are great places to  meet people because you already have something to talk about: The team! It unites the two of you with a common interest and makes it easy to talk in such a relaxed and fun environment. And, best of all, the endorphins you get while cheering for a team are the same ones you have while having sex!

    It’s easy to meet people on campus, all you have to do is start talking!

     

  • Peters 5:19 pm on September 23, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Traits That Attract 

    Ever think that the reason you’re still single isn’t because you haven’t found anyone good enough yet, but maybe because people think you’re not good enough?

    I’m just going to sit here for a second while that sinks in.

    You ok, there? Ok, good. Chances are it you’re a perfectible suitable match for someone, but if you want to meet singles you have to let that be known! Highlighting your attractive traits is crucial when finding a date.

    So what are the traits people look for the most?

    Decisiveness
    “What do you want to do tonight?”
    “Um… I don’t know. You pick.”
    “Well I picked last night, and the night before, and the entire week before that. Let’s do something you want to do tonight!”
    “Okay, well, um.. Uh.. Let me just call someone and see what we should do.”
    If someone is dating you, they want to get to know YOU! That includes what you like, things you like doing, and how you want to spend your time. Having them always make the decision of how you’ll spend your time together will get on his nerves and drive him away. Be decisive!

    Be willing to compromise
    You want to go see a play and he wants to go to the big baseball game. Would it kill you both to just see a movie about sports? It’s a perfect middle ground of the two! Not everyone has the ability to compromise (*cough*selfishpeople*cough*),  so if you can, you should!

    Have a passion
    It’s great that you’re into them, but you should be into other things, too! Seeing someone have a passion for something is a very attractive feature for both men and women.

    Have the right style
    Even if you’re not fashionable, you can still have appropriate style. This simply includes not wearing flip flops to a nice dinner, and not wearing revealing clothing in public places. There’s a time and a place for everything, even clothes.

    Be confident!
    Nothing is a bigger turn off than someone who doesn’t think highly of themselves. They want to be with someone who is confident in what they’re doing (especially when it comes to sex!).  Start thinking you’re hot shit and people are going to be thing it right along with you.

    These 5 traits are key in attracting a match, so make them prominent and start getting dates!

     

  • Peters 7:35 pm on September 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Are You A Sammi Or A Ronnie? 

    I’m not ashamed to say it– I love watching Jersey Shore. There isn’t a Thursday that you won’t find me in front of my TV watching a group of the classiest, well-read, extremely tone-appropriate skin colors doing things that obviously only the classiest of folk do. Wait… that may be Jeopardy I’m thinking of. Jersey Shore is the one where they get drunk and fight each other, right? I like that one, too. But, like most people, there’s an element of that show that I can’t stand. And those elements’ names? Sammi and Ron.

    While the rest of the world is sitting around wondering why the two of them are together, I’m sitting pretty because I already know the answer. After going on Jersey Shore and showing the world that they’re absolutely bat shit crazy, they’ve realized that not a single soul would date them now, so they’ve decided to cling to each other in a desperate attempt to not be alone for the rest of their lives.

    Personally my favorite part about the hatred towards Sammi and Ron is that most of it comes from couples EXACTLY LIKE SAMMI AND RON. Newsflash, world! If you’re in a relationship where you drink too much and fight all the time and break up every other day and cry all the time, then you aren’t exactly in the position to judge a couple who drinks too much and fights all the time and breaks up every other day and cries all the time. But, since most likely you are in a relationship like that, I have a fun game for you!

    Laaaaadies and gentlemen! It’s time to play Who Are You: Sammi Or Rahn? This is where the theme music would start playing if this was on TV and not the internet.


    First Question!
    Do you have an abnormal amount of rage built up inside you because you’ve been overloading your steroid usage since you were 14? Have you not seen your balls in the last 6 years because they’ve shrunken to the size of your brain? When you’re drunk, do you start taking swings at your guy friends? And when you’re really drunk do you start taking swings at your girlfriend (Don’t worry about it man, she probably deserved it anyways)?
    If this sounds like you, then you’re a RONNIE!!!

    Next Question!
    Does your boyfriend traumatize you by having sex with women who aren’t you in the smush room in the house you both live in together? Does he troll the city visibly high on coke looking to meet local women to make out with in front of all your mutual friends, then get violently mad when said friends tell you about it? Do you enjoy getting in loud screaming matches that always end in you crying, being single, and getting back together all within a night?
    If this one sounds like you, then you my friend are a SAMMI!!

    Wasn’t that fun?! Next time join us to see if you’re an Ike or a Tina!

     

  • Peters 3:35 pm on September 14, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    If You Put Out On Your First Date, It Will Probably Be Your Last 

    I don’t understand why universities do some of the studies they do, but I’m glad they get them done. Thanks to Texas University’s great use of their psychology department, we now have an estimate on how long your relationship is going to last in relation to how fast you have sex with the person you’re dating.

    Although most people think that this study was a total waste of time, I actually think it’s useful information! People have been working the theory for years that the third date is the right time to give out free sex, but what if we’ve been mistaken? What if it’s the 5th date? Or the 17th? Well, thanks to Texas U, we don’t have to guess anymore. Here are the results of their study:

    First time having sex together: First date. Average relationship length: None.

    I guess when your mother tells you should wait to have sex, she has a good point. According to the study, people who sleep together on a first date generally do it not because of the chemistry they have, but because they both know it’s going nowhere and want some action before it’s too late.

    First time having sex together: Three weeks after the first date. Average relationship length: 2-5 years.

    It’s assumed that people who wait between two weeks and a month to have sex for the first time, ideally at three weeks, have a higher chance of staying together because they have a chance to build an emotional relationship before getting physical.

    First time having sex together: Five weeks after the first date. Average relationship length: 5-15 years.

    Couples who are willing to wait five weeks to sleep together get the added benefit of the emotional bond that can form in the first three weeks, but they also get more in sync with one another’s movements, which will make their first time in bed more compatible, making you both more comfortable with each other and strengthening the bond you’re already formed.

    First time having sex together: Two + months after the first date. Average relationship length: 2 Months.

    When couples wait over two months to have sex for the first time, the anticipation usually builds to a point where expectations get too high, and both parties are either so let down by the experience or embarrassed by the way it played out that they go their separate ways shortly after their first encounters.

    There you have it! If you’re about to get down and dirty, do it at the right time for a higher chance of success.

     

  • Peters 4:02 pm on September 12, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Inner Office Dating– So Good Or A Recipe For Disaster? 

    Sometimes the things we know we shouldn’t do are the only ones we really want. Chocolate will go straight to your hips but you eat it anyways, hairdryers kill your hair but you use them regardless, and talking on the phone while driving is now illegal but sometimes you just have to make that call! One of the biggest things we shouldn’t do comes to singles dating in the office, but as soon as they tell you not to date the boss, that’s the #1 person on your ‘To-Date’ list. When it comes to dating people in your office, what could really go wrong? The answer is probably more than you’d like.

    If you have a crush on one of your authority figures in your office, chances are other people do, to. You may benefit from getting some special attention from your boss if you’re the one dating him, but that may be balanced out with getting treated a little worse than usual from the others in the office. Not only might there be jealousy because you’re dating the big man on campus, but there could be a little hostility because you have a hand-up on getting on his good side. If you’re going to start dating a boss, make sure your co-workers are cool with it! If they’re not, then leave your relationship out of the office. What they don’t know won’t hurt them, and better yet, won’t get you hurt.

    If all’s a go for your office relationship, keep in mind that there are still going to be limits on it! It’s appropriate for your boyfriend to give you a kiss goodbye if he walks you to work one day, but that’s not exactly the case if your boyfriend is also your boss. Keep the PDA away from your workplace so you don’t make things awkward for those around you. And while we’re on the subject of physical interaction, there’s that little issue of sex. We’ve all seen a movie where the boss romantically sweeps everything off his desk and they go at it like there’s no one around. Even if his office is a windowless soundproof room, there should be no sex in the office! Ever!

    So let’s review, shall we? Make sure co-workers are cool, don’t overload the PDA, and leave sex in the office to movies. Any extra questions, class?

     

  • Peters 6:20 pm on September 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    The Curious Case Of The Single Woman And The Married Man 

    If you don’t know a couple who is no more thanks to a single woman seducing the man, then you’re probably 12, because anyone over that age knows a couple like that.

    Alright, that’s a bit specific. Obviously if a man strays for another woman, he’s just as much to blame as she is, but that still doesn’t explain why so many single women are attracted to taken men.

    In a study done by Ontario’s Western University, they had 200 women judge pictures of 20 men, one picture with another women, with with just himself, and almost 80% of those women chose the picture where they were with the woman as the ‘hotter picture’ of him. The surprising part? The pictures were doctored and the woman was digitally erased for the picture where he’s by himself, meaning that the two pictures of the men were the exact same. Out of those 200 women, only 8 noticed that it was the same man.

    Scientists suggest the reason for this is because women get a rush of endorphins that stimulates better sex when they’re sleeping with someone that was a challenge to get. What’s that mean? Basically if they’re getting easy free sex, it’s average. If they’re having sex with someone that didn’t give it up so easily, they naturally have better sex.

    Besides the bedroom action, women like the chase in general. Having their sites set on someone that is supposed to be so unattainable is the ultimate chase. Technically it should be impossible to get a man with a ring on his finger, and if you tell someone he’s impossible, people just want him that much more.

    So, here’s my plea to single women and married men: Knock it  off already! You’re the reason you have a bad rap.

     

  • Peters 3:10 pm on September 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    If They Do This, Then They Probably Don’t Like You 

    “He’s just not that into you!” It’s an easy sentence to say, but a really, really hard sentence to hear. Not only does it suck because you’re finding out that someone doesn’t like you, but it’s embarrassing that someone else noticed it before you did! Instead of waiting around to be told that by someone else, notice the signs yourself so you’ll know when it’s time to ditch your date and meet singles again!

    They’re Not Into You If…

    They’re not putting an effort to see you.
    Are you always the one to take that step and make plans? If they never ask you to hang out, or it seems that they’ll only hang out when it’s convenient for them, then you’ve found yourself a loser.

    They have more excuses than enthusiasm
    “Tonight? Uh.. I can’t. My neighbors son’s car has a flat tire and I said I’d help change it, it’ll probably take all night.” Excuses like that are the biggest red-flag for one way relationships.

    You haven’t met any of their friends
    The approval of someones friends is important to them. They want to know if they think you’re a good match, if they see a future for you two, and most importantly, if the friends get along well with you. If they haven’t bothered to introduce you to them, then you’re probably nothing more than a sex buddy to them!

    They check out other people when you’re with them
    A glance could be innocent, but it could also be them saying “And when I’m done with you, I’ll be on them.” (Here’s a hint: It’s probably the second option.)

    If they’re doing any of these things, figure it out for yourself before someone has to tell you! They’re just not that into you!

     

  • Peters 8:27 pm on September 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Can These People Date Already, Please? 

    People have a tendency to get attached to couples on the big screen, despite the fact that the only time sparks fly between them is when the cameras are rolling. We know that what they’re saying is completely scripted, yet we can’t help but want to see them get a real-life happily-ever-after.

    When it comes to on-screen couples, these are the ones we want to see together off screen:

    Baby & Johnny

    The Dirty Dancing duo had a story book courtship from the start: She was the daddy’s girl without dating experience, he was the bad boy with a heart of gold that her dad didn’t want her to see, and they were brought together by– what else– dancing! Which girl didn’t wish that she was Baby when he sweetly lifted her above his head? For years the rumor mill turned saying that the two of them were living together and were madly in love, when in reality they disliked each other so much that they didn’t even talk in between takes, let alone on their spare time. Rumor has it Swayze spent his time trying to meet local women around set, and Jennifer spent hers talking about what a dick he was.

    Zack & Kelly

    The reigning king and queen of Bayside set the standard for ‘cool high school couple’ in TV. When they got married in their almost-Vegas wedding episode, girls and guys alike around the world were crushed and elated. Despite their chemistry on screen, they insist that they’re nothing but good friends and have both married other people since.

    Jack & Rose

    What is it about Leo and Kate that makes us want to see them together so badly?! Was it the fact that their sex scene in Titanic was the best ever, or was it something else? When she divorced her husband this year and he split with long-time girlfriend Bar, people assumed that naturally they’d get together. It wasn’t long before Kate was dating a felly Britt Burberry model and Leo was seen dating one of the stars of Gossip Girl. I guess the hopes of their relationship went down with the Titanic.

    Corey & Topanga

    For 20-somethings, Corey and Topanga were the prime example of a perfect couple. They met in grade school, started dating in high school, and eventually married in college. We literally got to see them grow up together, and seeing them now with other people is like learning that your best friends are getting divorced. Heartbreaker.

    Allie & Noah

    These two actually were a couple in real life for a few years. Once they wrapped the notebook, we got to see a steamy real-life kiss between them on the MTV Awards, which fueled the fan fire to see them together. Then they broke up, making it just that much sadder to watch the Notebook.

    Seth & Summer

    These two were the other pair on this list that were together in real life, but in a case of good timing, the broke up right as their characters broke up on the show. Talk about life imitating art.

    Jim & Pam

    Come on! They’re just perfect for each other. I don’t need to explain this one.

    Ennis & Jack

    In what is still known as the best LGBT love story to date, we saw two people had the odds against them love and lose. Jake died in the movie which made fans want to see them together even more in real life, but then Heath Ledger died himself.

    Even though we know these couples started in our DVD players, we want to see them keep going in real life!

     

  • Peters 3:28 pm on September 2, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Picture Your First Date 

    Picture your first date. And I don’t mean imagine what your first date will be like with someone, I mean literally picture the date. They say that a picture is worth a thousand words, but with all the memories you will have attached to these ones, they’ll be worth a lot more than that!

    A great way to add an element of fun to your first date is by capturing the whole thing! In an age where almost everything is documented digitally and shared on Facebook, it’s a fun idea to do that off the bat! Why wait until your 8th or 9th date to start taking pictures? Doing it right off the bat is a fun and memorable way to kick off your relationship. So how do you make photography into a memorable date?

    Break out the dictionary

    Start off your date at a low key place like a coffee house and bring along a dictionary. You each have to pick five pages and five words, and then spend the rest of your date on a scavenger-like adventure. And best of all, if any of your words relate to sex, you get a jump start on the naughty conversation!

    Buy an instant camera

    On dates, people usually want to be reminded of a simpler time. Girls want guys to open the doors for them, guys want to pick up the bill, and both parties want the date to be traditional. Instant cameras like Polaroids have a tendency of reminding you of that same time. They’re fun and easy to use, so whether it’s a candid picture or one of scenery, they’ll freeze the memory in a unique and traditional way

    Set a development date

    Buy a disposable camera and at the start of the date, write a month and day that’s still a few weeks away on the camera. Instead of developing the camera when you’re done the date, the two of you have to go out together on the chosen date to develop it together. Not only is it an excuse to continue hanging out until then, but when you give enough time between the first date and the development of the pictures, you’re likely to forget the small details, and seeing the pictures will remind you of those times and the feelings you had during your first date.

    Singles dating tend to always fall back on the same first date ideas. Breaking out of the ordinary date box can make the difference between a mundane date and an exciting one, so make it worth your time and say cheese!

     

  • Peters 9:03 pm on September 1, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Dates That You’ll Actually Have Fun On 

    Everyone suggests the same first date. Go to the movies, go out to dinner, go to the coffee house…When you’re getting all the same suggestions, you’re likely to end up with the same results. And if you’re getting the same results, chances are you still haven’t found someone worth your time yet. The key to a good first date is to actually have the set up for a good first date. If you’re doing the same old thing, you’re likely to have the same old conversation and the same old boring time together.

    Change it up! If you want to have a good date, you need have a good setting!

    Go Tree Planting

    Organizations are always looking for people to volunteer to plant trees. Most places allow you to donate your time as you see fit. Want to plant 10 trees? Great! Only what to plant 1? That’s fine, as long as you’re helping. Planting a tree will stimulate more interesting conversation than a night at the movies would, and you’ll have something tangible to show when the date is done. It’s also quite symbolic– You’re planting a small tree and hoping that it will be nurtured enough to grow to it’s full potential, much like your new relationship.

    Take a trip to the zoo

    Besides the fact that everyone loves seeing baby animals, the zoo is a great place for easy conversations. You get to see where each animal is from, which allows you to discuss travel stories from that area, or travel plans for the future. Not only that, but you’re in an environment where primal sex is accepted as a natural act, which will make you both more relaxed for thinking about getting down and dirty later!

    Go to a bookstore

    This one sounds like it could be as dull as going to a coffee shop, but trust me, there is more fun to be had in a bookstore than you’d think. Before you enter the store, go in with a plan. Pick a book rack, shelf, and book number before you go in. IE– The third book rack on your right, the second shelf, and fifth book on that shelf. Whatever that book is, the two of you have to tell a story related to the subject. Is it a book on vampires? Tell the story about how your ex-girlfriend was obsessed with Robert Pattinson. Is it about golf? Share that time when you got kicked off of a golf course for sneaking onto the greens after hours.

    Singles dating can have a great time on a first date, you just have to know where to go!

     

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