The biggest problem young relationships face is trying to do too much too fast in the relationship and burning it out. If you get bored with each other in the first few weeks, it makes it nearly impossible to sustain a lasting relationship. Losing the flame before it has a chance to really make some heat is a waste of time, so protect what could be something good by not letting him get bored.
Do ‘Guy Things’ With Him
Guys don’t want to go to the mall twice in one week. They don’t even want to go to the mall twice in a year. When you’re trying to think of things for the two of you to do together, think outside the feminine box. Sure you may want to go to Macy’s to see the sales they have on Jimmy Choos, but do you really think that’s how he wants to spend his Saturday? Again? When he asks you what you want to do, suggest something fun that he’ll enjoy doing. A round of paintball, going rock climbing, hitting the driving range… Basically anything that a guy would want to do in his past time. If he can see you as a buddy that he can enjoy doing fun things with, he won’t easily give you up. Guys love girls who can chill with their friends, and taking him out to do something he’ll love is a big sign that you’ll fit in with his buddies.
Give Him His Space
No guy wants to wake up to three missed calls, 4 text messages, 7 BBMs, and a dozen e-mails from the girl he just saw the night before. Calling just to say hi may be one of the biggest pet peeves for men. If you’re going to call him, do it at an appropriate time (ie– not in the middle of the night, and not during office hours), and have something to say! If you have tickets to the big game and you want him to come with you, then that’s an acceptable call. If you have tickets to the big game and you want him to look for you on TV, that’s a waste of his time. Unless you have a reason to talk to him, then give him his space!
Don’t Put Out
I know withholding sex doesn’t sound like the best plan to keep a guy interested in you, but believe it or not, guys admit that they like the chase of sex better than the satisfaction of actually getting it. Guys never get bored when they have something to strive for, and when that something is a person, it’s very likely that even when they conquer their prize, they still want to hold onto the trophy.
Take Cues From Him To Know What He Wants
Guys aren’t as subtle as women are when it comes to getting what they want. It’s usually extremely easy to read a guys face to know what they want. If he looks like he likes something, he probably does! Whether it’s what you’re doing, what you’re talking about, or if he wants to get out of a date, it’s extremely easy to see what a guy wants. Take the cues from him to keep him happy.
Don’t Push Him
The biggest mistake women do in the early stages of relationships is push their date into something they’re not ready for. You see it in singles dating all the time: One party is looking for a serious relationship and the other is looking to simply fool around. Now, for whatever reason, a lot of women think it’s a good idea to push guys into a serious relationship when they’re not ready. All this does is make them even less inclined to get into a relationship! If you think you can change your mind on your relationship status, do it with actions, not with words. Nagging him into a relationship won’t end well for you.
There you have it! The five ways to make sure your new man doesn’t get bored within the first few weeks of the relationship. If you’re doing any of these things now, you have two options: Either stop doing them, or say goodbye to your future with him!