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  • Peters 8:25 pm on March 10, 2012 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: online, polite   

    Politeness Counts 

    While it doesn’t immediately sound like something that a lot of people first investigating the digital world of online dating and such should think about, being polite and conscientious is one of the best, if not most important, traits that anyone can develop – can be a real help in having a good and best of all productive time online.

    It’s understandable that a lot of people, however, feel a certain kind of power at being anonymous online: they feel that since what they are writing cannot immediately be traced back to them they can say whatever they want without repercussions. But what these people totally forget about is that no one really is anonymous online: yes, the identities we create to do online dating and interacting may not immediately be traced back to who we are in the real world but that doesn’t mean that someone’s online reputation isn’t important.

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  • Peters 7:46 pm on January 4, 2012 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Ex-boyfriend, How To Lose A Guy   

    How To Actually Lose A Guy In 10 Days 

    If you haven’t re-watched Kate Hudson’s rom-com How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days a hundred times, then that’s something we don’t have in common, because I have. But it seems that even though I’ve memorized this movie, I still don’t really know how to lose a guy in 10 days. I found out how to annoy the fuck out of one, but I don’t really know if that’s enough for him to be gone.

    Now, I don’t actually have a guy that I want to lose in 10 days. In fact, I’d like to know how to lose a guy in 10 days so I know what not to do in 10 days to get my ass dumped.

    If you’re looking to get out of a relationship, or if you simply want to know what will release you into the single world in a little over a week, we have a day-by-day planner on how to actually lose a guy in 10 days.

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  • Peters 8:30 pm on December 13, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: pictogram, places not to take a date, ,   

    11 Places Not To Take A Date 

    We love that pictures say a thousand words… It saves us from having to say them ourselves!

    If you’re in the singles dating world, you need to check out this great pictogram on the 11 places you shouldn’t take a date… Or anyone you want to have sex with, really!

    Click the jump to see the list.

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  • Peters 5:44 pm on October 28, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Are You Too Desperate To Date? 

    dating a desperate woman

    You’ve tried everything to meet singles. You’ve asked your friends to hook you up, you’ve spread the word that you’re looking, you wear suggestive clothing when you go out, and you let it be known that you’re even OK with casual sex. So why aren’t you getting any dates?!

    Well my friend, it might just be because you’re too desperate to date.

    There’s a very thin line between putting yourself out there and putting yourself in an embarrassing situation. When you’re looking to date someone, of course you should make it known that you’re seeking, but not by words; by actions.

    People get scared away easily by strong suggestions. Telling someone something like, “I haven’t had a boyfriend in 3 years and I’m really ready to get serious with someone again,” is enough to send any sane person running, but innocently flirting and getting to know someone is a great way to show that you’re open to the idea of dating.

    Look closely at the dating lives of your friends. There’s a good chance that the people who are always single are the ones who are desperate to find a match, and the ones who always attract relationships are the ones who are care-free about their dating lives.

    The more pressure you put on finding a date, the harder it’s going to be for you to get one. Next time you go out, don’t do it with the intention of bringing someone home. Go out and enjoy the time you spend with the people you’re around, and you’re going to be much more attractive to others!

     

  • Peters 7:44 pm on October 11, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Your Dates Should Have A Romantic Feel, Not A Romantic Theme 

    The biggest mistake singles dating make when they’re trying to set up a romantic date is that they tend to go overboard. We understand that your girlfriend loves The Notebook and you want to make her feel like she’s in the movie, but she doesn’t actually want to be in that movie!

    Let me explain…

    A friend of mine from college was dating a girl who absolutely loved that movie. I’m not exaggerating when I say she watched it almost every weekend. So for Valentines Day, he thought it would be a rad idea if he gave her a Notebook day, which, in theory, was a great idea. But he did it the wrong way. He actually bought outfits that were like the ones in the movie and laid in the middle of a street waiting for a light to change. This girl has seen this movie over and over– what you’re doing is old news to her!

    What he should have done was show her a date that had a Notebook feel. Instead of taking her in a boat surrounded by swans, simply take her in a canoe and play her favorite love songs while rowing. That way she’ll subconsciously associate the romance of your date with the movie, and feel excited on a whole different level.

    Just like when you have the candle-lit sex fantasy. Girls love things like that, but guys tend to fuck it up. Why did you think you needed 82 candles and rose pedals everywhere?! A trio of candles is more than enough to set the mood.

    You’re not setting a theme, you’re setting a feeling. Don’t go overboard with it!

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  • Peters 5:04 pm on September 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Class Is In Session 

    Where’s the best place for 20-somethings to meet singles in the real world? The easy answer would be to say through an online dating site, and while that would be true if you were looking at where singles meet digitally, it’s not the same as where they have the best chance of meeting organically.

    Believe it or not, the best chance at finding someone between 18 and 28 is on a university campus!

    With a growing number of people enrolling in universities in 2010 and 2011, it’s no wonder that the highest concentrated number of 20-somethings in one place is at a school. But now that you know where to find them, how can you further that to finding someone to have a relationship with?

    Head over to the campus coffee shop
    When people have a few minutes in between class, chances are they’re not going to stand around and wait for their next class, they’re going to find something to do! Coffee shops are always filled with people who are looking to waste time, and what better way to do that then getting to know someone! Find someone sitting by themselves who has a free seat around them, and ask if you could take a seat. It’s an easy way to break the ice and opens the door to conversation.

    Check out the library
    Everyone needs to study in University, and the library is the place to go. If anyone catches your eye, mention the subject they’re reading up on and offer your expertise. If you don’t know anything about their field, ask them about it! Talking through their subject will help them study, so really by hitting on them, you’ll be doing them a favor!

    Go to the campus store
    Every university has a store that sells essential reading materials for  class, and the lines are often longer than the wait to get into the college pub. If someone is buying a book they need for class, there’s no doubt they’d appreciate a little distraction with conversation as they wait in line.

    Support your team at a sporting event!
    Sporting events are great places to  meet people because you already have something to talk about: The team! It unites the two of you with a common interest and makes it easy to talk in such a relaxed and fun environment. And, best of all, the endorphins you get while cheering for a team are the same ones you have while having sex!

    It’s easy to meet people on campus, all you have to do is start talking!

     

  • Peters 5:19 pm on September 23, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Traits That Attract 

    Ever think that the reason you’re still single isn’t because you haven’t found anyone good enough yet, but maybe because people think you’re not good enough?

    I’m just going to sit here for a second while that sinks in.

    You ok, there? Ok, good. Chances are it you’re a perfectible suitable match for someone, but if you want to meet singles you have to let that be known! Highlighting your attractive traits is crucial when finding a date.

    So what are the traits people look for the most?

    Decisiveness
    “What do you want to do tonight?”
    “Um… I don’t know. You pick.”
    “Well I picked last night, and the night before, and the entire week before that. Let’s do something you want to do tonight!”
    “Okay, well, um.. Uh.. Let me just call someone and see what we should do.”
    If someone is dating you, they want to get to know YOU! That includes what you like, things you like doing, and how you want to spend your time. Having them always make the decision of how you’ll spend your time together will get on his nerves and drive him away. Be decisive!

    Be willing to compromise
    You want to go see a play and he wants to go to the big baseball game. Would it kill you both to just see a movie about sports? It’s a perfect middle ground of the two! Not everyone has the ability to compromise (*cough*selfishpeople*cough*),  so if you can, you should!

    Have a passion
    It’s great that you’re into them, but you should be into other things, too! Seeing someone have a passion for something is a very attractive feature for both men and women.

    Have the right style
    Even if you’re not fashionable, you can still have appropriate style. This simply includes not wearing flip flops to a nice dinner, and not wearing revealing clothing in public places. There’s a time and a place for everything, even clothes.

    Be confident!
    Nothing is a bigger turn off than someone who doesn’t think highly of themselves. They want to be with someone who is confident in what they’re doing (especially when it comes to sex!).  Start thinking you’re hot shit and people are going to be thing it right along with you.

    These 5 traits are key in attracting a match, so make them prominent and start getting dates!

     

  • Peters 7:35 pm on September 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Are You A Sammi Or A Ronnie? 

    I’m not ashamed to say it– I love watching Jersey Shore. There isn’t a Thursday that you won’t find me in front of my TV watching a group of the classiest, well-read, extremely tone-appropriate skin colors doing things that obviously only the classiest of folk do. Wait… that may be Jeopardy I’m thinking of. Jersey Shore is the one where they get drunk and fight each other, right? I like that one, too. But, like most people, there’s an element of that show that I can’t stand. And those elements’ names? Sammi and Ron.

    While the rest of the world is sitting around wondering why the two of them are together, I’m sitting pretty because I already know the answer. After going on Jersey Shore and showing the world that they’re absolutely bat shit crazy, they’ve realized that not a single soul would date them now, so they’ve decided to cling to each other in a desperate attempt to not be alone for the rest of their lives.

    Personally my favorite part about the hatred towards Sammi and Ron is that most of it comes from couples EXACTLY LIKE SAMMI AND RON. Newsflash, world! If you’re in a relationship where you drink too much and fight all the time and break up every other day and cry all the time, then you aren’t exactly in the position to judge a couple who drinks too much and fights all the time and breaks up every other day and cries all the time. But, since most likely you are in a relationship like that, I have a fun game for you!

    Laaaaadies and gentlemen! It’s time to play Who Are You: Sammi Or Rahn? This is where the theme music would start playing if this was on TV and not the internet.


    First Question!
    Do you have an abnormal amount of rage built up inside you because you’ve been overloading your steroid usage since you were 14? Have you not seen your balls in the last 6 years because they’ve shrunken to the size of your brain? When you’re drunk, do you start taking swings at your guy friends? And when you’re really drunk do you start taking swings at your girlfriend (Don’t worry about it man, she probably deserved it anyways)?
    If this sounds like you, then you’re a RONNIE!!!

    Next Question!
    Does your boyfriend traumatize you by having sex with women who aren’t you in the smush room in the house you both live in together? Does he troll the city visibly high on coke looking to meet local women to make out with in front of all your mutual friends, then get violently mad when said friends tell you about it? Do you enjoy getting in loud screaming matches that always end in you crying, being single, and getting back together all within a night?
    If this one sounds like you, then you my friend are a SAMMI!!

    Wasn’t that fun?! Next time join us to see if you’re an Ike or a Tina!

     

  • Peters 8:27 pm on September 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Can These People Date Already, Please? 

    People have a tendency to get attached to couples on the big screen, despite the fact that the only time sparks fly between them is when the cameras are rolling. We know that what they’re saying is completely scripted, yet we can’t help but want to see them get a real-life happily-ever-after.

    When it comes to on-screen couples, these are the ones we want to see together off screen:

    Baby & Johnny

    The Dirty Dancing duo had a story book courtship from the start: She was the daddy’s girl without dating experience, he was the bad boy with a heart of gold that her dad didn’t want her to see, and they were brought together by– what else– dancing! Which girl didn’t wish that she was Baby when he sweetly lifted her above his head? For years the rumor mill turned saying that the two of them were living together and were madly in love, when in reality they disliked each other so much that they didn’t even talk in between takes, let alone on their spare time. Rumor has it Swayze spent his time trying to meet local women around set, and Jennifer spent hers talking about what a dick he was.

    Zack & Kelly

    The reigning king and queen of Bayside set the standard for ‘cool high school couple’ in TV. When they got married in their almost-Vegas wedding episode, girls and guys alike around the world were crushed and elated. Despite their chemistry on screen, they insist that they’re nothing but good friends and have both married other people since.

    Jack & Rose

    What is it about Leo and Kate that makes us want to see them together so badly?! Was it the fact that their sex scene in Titanic was the best ever, or was it something else? When she divorced her husband this year and he split with long-time girlfriend Bar, people assumed that naturally they’d get together. It wasn’t long before Kate was dating a felly Britt Burberry model and Leo was seen dating one of the stars of Gossip Girl. I guess the hopes of their relationship went down with the Titanic.

    Corey & Topanga

    For 20-somethings, Corey and Topanga were the prime example of a perfect couple. They met in grade school, started dating in high school, and eventually married in college. We literally got to see them grow up together, and seeing them now with other people is like learning that your best friends are getting divorced. Heartbreaker.

    Allie & Noah

    These two actually were a couple in real life for a few years. Once they wrapped the notebook, we got to see a steamy real-life kiss between them on the MTV Awards, which fueled the fan fire to see them together. Then they broke up, making it just that much sadder to watch the Notebook.

    Seth & Summer

    These two were the other pair on this list that were together in real life, but in a case of good timing, the broke up right as their characters broke up on the show. Talk about life imitating art.

    Jim & Pam

    Come on! They’re just perfect for each other. I don’t need to explain this one.

    Ennis & Jack

    In what is still known as the best LGBT love story to date, we saw two people had the odds against them love and lose. Jake died in the movie which made fans want to see them together even more in real life, but then Heath Ledger died himself.

    Even though we know these couples started in our DVD players, we want to see them keep going in real life!

     

  • Peters 3:28 pm on September 2, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Picture Your First Date 

    Picture your first date. And I don’t mean imagine what your first date will be like with someone, I mean literally picture the date. They say that a picture is worth a thousand words, but with all the memories you will have attached to these ones, they’ll be worth a lot more than that!

    A great way to add an element of fun to your first date is by capturing the whole thing! In an age where almost everything is documented digitally and shared on Facebook, it’s a fun idea to do that off the bat! Why wait until your 8th or 9th date to start taking pictures? Doing it right off the bat is a fun and memorable way to kick off your relationship. So how do you make photography into a memorable date?

    Break out the dictionary

    Start off your date at a low key place like a coffee house and bring along a dictionary. You each have to pick five pages and five words, and then spend the rest of your date on a scavenger-like adventure. And best of all, if any of your words relate to sex, you get a jump start on the naughty conversation!

    Buy an instant camera

    On dates, people usually want to be reminded of a simpler time. Girls want guys to open the doors for them, guys want to pick up the bill, and both parties want the date to be traditional. Instant cameras like Polaroids have a tendency of reminding you of that same time. They’re fun and easy to use, so whether it’s a candid picture or one of scenery, they’ll freeze the memory in a unique and traditional way

    Set a development date

    Buy a disposable camera and at the start of the date, write a month and day that’s still a few weeks away on the camera. Instead of developing the camera when you’re done the date, the two of you have to go out together on the chosen date to develop it together. Not only is it an excuse to continue hanging out until then, but when you give enough time between the first date and the development of the pictures, you’re likely to forget the small details, and seeing the pictures will remind you of those times and the feelings you had during your first date.

    Singles dating tend to always fall back on the same first date ideas. Breaking out of the ordinary date box can make the difference between a mundane date and an exciting one, so make it worth your time and say cheese!

     

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