A new study just came out saying that in relationships where men cheat, the divorce rate is significantly less than the divorce rate of a faithful couple. So why then when we think of cheaters do our minds always wonder to such a dark place?
The study showed that when men cheat, it isn’t because they weren’t happy in the relationship or that they were looking for someone else to invest emotions in, but that they simply had the opportunity and wanted sex. It’s a mans primal instinct to want to have sex, and it’s been proven time and time again that sex lifts their moods. So what exactly is the downside to them having sex with someone other than their wife or girlfriend?
Most people don’t have a problem with the act itself, but with the emotional stigma they feel about the deception of the act. Females don’t want to feel like they’ve been lied to, or that their significant other has found someone else that he likes more. When women look at cheating, they only see the ego attached to it. When men look at it, they only see the chance to get laid.
Singles dating have the right idea: keep it light and loose! Singles don’t care how many other people the guy they’re dating is seeing, as long as he’s still seeing her. Wouldn’t it be a little easier if your husband had a place to release his sexual tension? That would save you from having to do the work yourself after coming home from a long day of work.
Many people have brought open communication into relationships when it comes to affairs. Often when there’s guidelines and structure, people have very long relationships regardless if they’re sleeping with other people. I have a friend who lets her husband sleep with whoever he wants as long as it’s never more than one time with the same person, there’s no talking afterwards (pillow talk is fine, but they can’t exchange numbers), and he doesn’t tell her about it. She said since they started doing it, their relationship has been stronger than ever. He’s no longer upset or resentful about the lack of sex they have, and she can concentrate on how to help their marriage emotionally instead of always physically.
Cheating doesn’t have to always be negative, nor does it always have to be ‘cheating’. If you take the ego out of it, then it really can strengthen the bond you have. But be smart about it– if you’re naturally a jealous person, maybe this isn’t the best path for you. But if you can handle it, then set up an online profile and start looking for your lunchtime piece!